Victor Erofeev

“The horse and a log hut” from the book “Men”

For infantilism

I have already a presentiment, that around me will gather the crowd of women of average ages with bad figures and the high pedagogical education, dressed in grey coats with the fur collars, divorced and having their continuously ill children, which where taken away from fathers. They will shower me with stones for only one assumption, that Russian man can be LOVED. This is the remark of national radio advertising service - in Russia they do not make friends with friends, they have them, as well in Russia nobody loves Russian men. They sympathize them. A verb "to sympathize" in this case has double meaning: to sympathize with someone who is small, snuffling and asking for feed, and to be greedy - in sense to stint to share or spend.

So, here are two reasons why Russian women love Russian men (despite of their drunkenness, idleness, of this anecdotical TV, lying on a sofa and not helping to do the housework, leaving children etc.). The first reason - they love them as own children, and the second - they love them as the property, being afraid to let him go from herself or to share with other woman.
Both these reasons of love (ОК, sympathy) one can explain by the mysterious Russian reality. The parent potential of Russian women is huge, it is comparable only with parent potential of the jewish women. But for some reason there are enough children's homes and many mothers write the application for refusal of the child before his birth in Russia.

I would notice, there is no one children's home, in Israel. At all. The solution consists in the fact that the child for the Russian woman is necessary only instead of the husband. Seriously to be engaged in the child she begins only when she is not engaged in the husband, and this happen practically since a birth. Almost every mum inspires her daughter that it is necessary to be afraid of all men and hold a defense. Then it is explained to the girl that the applicability of the woman is to give birth and bring up children. A conclusion of the girl – man is bad, child is good. The following conclusion: good man is the child. And these bad men are glad to try – they lay on a sofa and demande supper. As babies in a child's bed.

To prove to the woman, that he is weak, helpless and cannot do without her (no matter what he told being drunk), Russian man is ready even to die. The drunk inhabitant of Berlin, the immigrant from former Soviet Union, went once on road in the car. He was drunk, there was his wife at the wheel, and, certainly, all the way he developed idea "if at the wheel is woman, it means this is not driving ". As told correspondent Berliner Kurier, it eventually has bothered the woman and she has left the car together with three children, having thrown the fourth one on an arbitrariness of destiny. Contentedly saying something about woman and driving, man has sat down at the rudder and soon was dead in an accident, not having entered in turn.
In general, he did not want to offend the wife. I think, he does not wanted to die also. He simply wanted to apologize and tell something like: "Sweetheart, actually I meant, that you drive the car very well". But man's pride not allowed him to say that, so he has not told her anything good, and has simply shown that cannot live without her.

For insufficiency

It is not casually that it is accepted to name each other "my gold" in Russia. The meaning of the woman's “my gold” is only one: "I have found you, I have dug out you, and I shall put you on a finger, as a golden ring, I shall hang you up on my neck, as a golden necklace". It is true – as world reserves of gold thaw, so the quantity of Russian men decreases. Statistics say that there are ten girls for nine guys, even 8,86 guys. This figure becomes less every day.
Able-bodied men in Russia die 4 times more often than women, and it is much more than 100 years ago. There are 6 times more addicts and suicides among Russian men, than among women. Demographers have counted up, that in 15 years there will be 7 million more women in Russia, than men, and a half of present boys-teenagers will not live even till 60 years. So, the Russian woman, who have man in to the house, is truly happy.

And at that moment when she finds out the gold, she starts to hate it. She hates it for the same reasons that she loves (sympathize) – for the reason of his infantilism and of his insufficiency (people love gold and hate it for the same reasons, I shall notice, there is always not mach of it and it is not enough for all). Actually she hates that she has imagined herself: since the childhood she wanted small man, which would be only her one, and others would have not such a man. Russian man thus indulges her dreams in every possible way: she want something small and asking for feed, pressing on sympathy and unable to sew something for himself, she want to care of someone - she receives it. "All the same I will not throw him, because he is good one" – they sing at the Russian song. She wanted what is not present at others, - she receives it... So Russian man tries very much to give the Russian woman what she wants. But a problem is that she does not know herself what to want.

In general, as has noticed one familiar foreign analytic specialist: "Russian women frequently complain of Russian men, and I quite admit, that Russian men are such bad... But they are those not by the nature, they bad because Russian women make for them such life". Russian men react to "such" life adequately.

For what foreigners love Russian women, and those love foreigners

"It is the strange population, - Napoleon Bonaparte told two hundred years ago about Russian, - everyone want to live anywhere, only not in that country where were born". There is one million men more than women in France. The poorer you are, the more interesting you are for a society in Scandinavia. In America and Canada a marriage by correspondence - traditional phenomenon since the beginning of the first inhabitants (They came from Europe, equipped and then wrote out wives for itself).

There are less men, than women in Russia, poverty - the big beastliness, and they marry, only preliminary having examined the bride from different sides (by the way, there was even a custom in Russia by which for the future mother-in-law they brought the future son's wife, they undressed and examined her naked - whether is present any defect of this girl, or not). Not wishing to be a victim of these barbarous laws, Russian woman moves to the West. And/or she finds the foreign friend in Russia.

Beeing in the bed with the foreigner, the Russian woman starts to complain of Russian men. She does it before, after, and sometimes even instead of sex. "I waited, when we shall begin, - the familiar American told to me, - but she continued to speak about the unhappy romance with that married bald impotent man ". Foreigners thus love Russian women not that very much, but they sympathize them. And that is exactly what women want. If George or Peter give young lady hope for the best life, they become angels.

In the American edition of "Playboy" the article of the known woscow lady's man Matt Thaub was published recently, he is the editor of newspaper The eXile (in English, for foreigners living in Russia). It was under heading "Russian babies never say "no". "In Russia, - writes Matt, - the whole new world opens for foreigners, from which there is no return for someone.
It is the world in which women in the morning after sex prepare breakfast, they understand and mean, that oral sex is a duty, they dressed so that all that they have are visible, and they do not wait from you, that you will be engaged in her career. As a whole strategy of their sexual behaviour is those, that you feel in their society as an east king". "How it is possible? " - will whisper Russian man made a fool by the dexterous American man. "And here is how it is possible, - answers Thaub, - they do massage for you, scratch and caress you without additional requests, they bring a meal on trays for you while you watch video, they clean and iron your clothes and they buy small gifts for you".
"Where is it????" – yells fooled Russian man. And a door of the American bedroom with HIS! Russian woman will slam at him before a nose. Easy, fellow: your woman do it not because you are not so tall. The American has not understood, that all Russian women who caress him and etc., do it not because they love him, but because they were accustomed to this by Russian men.

That is the nature of Russian women: being completely sure that Russian man is bad, they all the same continue to care and entertain them in bed. Unique difference Thaub from Russian man in this case is that Thaub is the foreigner. For the Russian woman it means that, probably, he is good one.

It is remarkable, that Russian women love foreigners exactly for the same reason, why they hate Russian men, - but only exactly on the contrary. In the union of Russian woman and foreigner not the man is infantile, but more often it is woman. Besides not the woman is afraid to lose the man, but on the contrary. Because for ten guys there are nine girls, as statistics say.

The sense of that she is in demand for the Russian woman is that stability, by which thousand Russian women explain the sudden departure for the West. They do not want gold boys any more. They want to be gold girls themselfs. Therefore a unique way to keep them in Rissia – try to guess... warm... warm... hot... You are right. You have to load them with money. And if you do not have enough money for it – have more irony, sirs. As Michael Kuzmin has noticed once, the irony is a sneer of the person at the world, and humour is a sneer of the world at the person. Russian always were the nation with good sense of humour. But they did not have enough irony.

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